Has the economy changed dating

It’s not a real surprise to find out that a Nice Guy who doesn’t take care of his appearance and believes that he’s owed a girlfriend is having a hard time getting that 10 to give him her number.

Guys frequently get hung up on numbers; how many people have you slept with, how quickly can you get a woman to sleep with you. The problem is that men are viewing women through the prism of the male experience: the goal of getting sex as quickly as possible, as easily as possible.

They have a tendency to fall for the old axiom that sex is like pizza; even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good. While exceptions certainly exist, women on the whole don’t approach casual sex the way that men do; they’re not looking for how quickly they can find a pole for the hole, they’re looking for someone who excites them and can provide the sex they want.

Johnny Pick-Up Line with the over-greased hair and the Affliction tee may be ready and eager to be the droid she’s looking for, but the fact that he’s willing to bang in fact, a buyer’s market for women.

In online dating, for example, the number of men on dating sites tends to easily outnumber the women.

I have friends who aren’t conventionally attractive, aren’t especially rich and are certainly not powerful… Men have to be the aggressors, men are the ones who have to make the approach, call first, ask her out, pay for the date… Women are clearly either lazy, entitled or just get off on having men subjugate themselves.

Let’s be honest: more often than not the men who complain most about this are the men who would prefer to be approaching women themselves, whether due to approach anxiety, a fear of rejection or even just not being sure whether or not she’s interested.

Because sex is so much more easily attainable for women – or so the conventional wisdom goes – they have luxury of being able to define the standards which men must meet, wantonly cutting off men who are not rich, tall douchebags with square jaws and fast cars.

Men feel helpless; they feel that they are forced to leap through hoops in order to win women’s approval and hope that she will pick him against all odds. In fact, not only is the idea that women somehow control all the power in sex and dating not true, but it’s a case of people asking the wrong question.

The idea is that because it is supposedly easier for women to find a sexual partner than it is for a man, they are the dominant force, the buyer in a buyer’s market.

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